In a scene in the movie Kung Fu, the foreman overseeing Chinese railroad laborers asks Kwai Chang Caine why he is so quiet. Caine replies: "If one's words are no better than silence, one should keep silent."
The art of keeping silent, or listening -- to the rhythm of the moment and the rhythm of oneself, and staying true to both -- is sometimes a struggle. In Western cultures, any length of wordlessness in a conversation starts to feel awkward.
Quieting my mind, my fears, and my anxieties for longer periods of time, and in the safety of my own home, is what I need to do to become more comfortable with using silence to fully communicate who I am.